>Dear kim,

>

>Congratulations on your coming out. As for you I too came out to may Wife of 20

>years only 4 months ago. We have come a long way in those 4 months. Although Beth

>(my Wife) is not totally accepting, She is tolerating as to my dressing in her

>presence.

>The most that help our situation was talking and honesty with the help from

>everyone on this NG and contacts at a couple for Local Support groups one being

>Tri-ess.

>Beth has also been seeing a Marriage counsel familar with the transgender issues,

>which has been a help to her.

>

>Please continue talking and being honest with your wife, its the best therapy out

>there. Although it real helpful for you and her to have other contacts. Beth would

>love to correspond with your wife. Just send e-mail to us. She is helping others

>found her already. She is also Signed up to a List server for Wifes only. CDSO.

>We can help her get started the if she wants. Its only for wifes of crossdressers

>and real helpful for issues from the other side.

>

>I only wish I were in your shoes young and out, at 46 i waited too long. But still

>have enought youth to enjoy both lives.

>

>Rachellle and Beth

>

rach40@erols.com