Are you a Princess?

My wife subscribes to a listserver for the spouses of crossdressers. The intent of this listserver is to provide some sort of support for our spouses. I think it's wonderful that something like this exists and it seems to be a big benefit for all who participate in it. (I have done some extremely scientific polling of my wife and her responses indicate that this is true.)

Occasionally, my wife will let me read some of the letters posted on the listserver. A number of topics come up and judging by what I read ladies, we aren't helping ourselves in many cases. We love to talk about how we are "getting in touch" with our feminine sides, that we are "growing" and becoming "better" people. Yet it seems to me anyway that this "growing" thing is pretty one sided in all too many cases. Girls, being a woman isn't all about glamour!

It really puts the "double whammy" on our spouses for us to sit in front of the mirror like some sort of princess and flutter our eyes while we leave them to do the dirty work of running a household. Do you think that your mate likes to do housework? It's not much fun, is it? Why should they have to be burdened with all of it, especially if they're already working full time as many do? If you really want to be a lady, pitch in and help around the house! Vacuum the rug, do the laundry, there's a never-ending supply of work to be done around the house in most instances. It's a two-way street here girls, there's a time to be pretty and there's a time to get dirty.

Another behavior that caught my eye is that in every day life some of us allow our male sides to be disgustingly unkempt and slovenly. One poor gal on the listserver complained that her hubby seldom takes a shower, that is until it's time to go "glam." Is this guy scoring any points? Not likely is it? Your spouse wants a hubby that she can be proud of; dress the part!

We complain loudly about the "double standard" that society imposes on us. You know, the one that states women can wear pants without fear of repercussion but we poor "guys" don't dare wear a skirt in public. Now to learn that some of us turn around and allow an equally unjust double standard to exist in our own personal lives just astounds me. Shame on you!

Our goal is societal acceptance of, or at least a modicum of tolerance for, crossdressing. We aren't going anywhere until we achieve this on the home front. Even if your spouse never fully accepts your crossdressing, by willingly helping them with the not so pleasant tasks of running a household you really are well on the way to becoming that "better" person.

©1997 Leah MacLean