Survey 3 Results

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This page last updated 01/20/2003

Results from "Survey 3" Responses

Survey 3 Posted From 2/22/99 To 11/19/99

Available for 5 months during that span as web site was down from 5/5/99 to 9/5/99

Thanks for your time in filling out the survey and your patience in giving me the time to compile the results! I have put the original surveys back on the site, so whoever wants to, can continue take them and I will post those results as well.

X=denotes a response to the question or a check in the box as an answer or choice.

My comments are in RED.

Please tell me your e-mail:

(As always, I would never disclose addresses to anyone).

Do you have a web page?

(Still not many who visit, or so it seems, have a web site but some want to have one).

Yes, xxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Chelsea/2778/

http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Castro/7874/

http://www.ace.net.au/wernerro/index.htm

http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Stonewall/3995/

http://hometown.aol.com/kristij1/myhomepage/index.html

1) How old are you?

Under 18 years old x
Between 19 and 24 years old xxx
Between 25 and 34 years old xxxxxxxxx
Between 35 and 44 years old xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
More than 45 years old xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

2) How often do you visit my page?

Lots of first timers!

First Time xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Every Day
Once per week xxxxxxxxxxx
Once per month xxxxxxxxxxx
Once per year

3) What do you think of the site? Are there any changes you would like to see be made?

Thanks for your appreciation!!

Terrific, Your comprehensive, more on relationships with wives, SO's, and GG women

Very Nice, backgrounds take a while to load

Backgrounds actually don't contribute much to the time as they are optimized for 4 seconds, it's the thumbnails and other image stuff on certain pages that make them take so long to load. I even store images on my own site, so you don't wait for linked images. The main photo page gateway and the home pages are the worst (besides "Art"). I could introduce myself and the site with a bare bones text page but I really don't see the point as I still need you to pass through the main home page as is, sorry. Faster bandwidth is around the corner (cable modems, satellite technology and DSL) but I am sensitive to this point and I will continue to seek faster loading times for those with slower connections.

I think it's one of the best out there! Congrats!

Looks real good to me

Great site !

Great site! Wish mine looked this good! Just Wait till I get the hang of this computer!

Great

Love it so far

Great photos! The page backgrounds are very distracting, personally I prefer non-photo backgrounds

Been there, done that! This format is way preferred over any other but I'll continue to re-evaluate that.

There are a few sites that make me go WOW and this is one of them. Should you make any changes, I fear it may go the way of some of the others. Do not take my comments in item four seriously ......although I would like to see you in black lingerie ........Thank you for a wonderful website, which is why I felt it only reasonable to fill out your survey in "turn".

Beautiful. I love everything on your very feminine site

Very nice!!

I like your site very much, the work that it takes is beyond my dreams

Love your site. You are a very beautiful, very sexy lady. I can't emphasize those two points enough. I always enjoy my visits here.

Yes...you date men...I am bi-curious and would love for you to be my first time. Wow

You change the site so often, adding a minder link (like net-minder) could notify visitors when the page changes so they don't miss a single update. Also, sort the change log in reverse order so the latest changes are on top (no scrolling necessary)

Thanks for the above suggestions. Both were implemented!

I think it's great, you are very lovely, also.

You are very beautiful.....I just love your site!!!

Attractive site - easy to move around in it.

Fantastic, need more info like yours. Well done

Incredibly professional! Can't think of any changes

I think you have done very well, you are a beautiful girl (person), keep up the good work

Very informative

Jenelle, love your website

I love the way you put this site together! I'm going to have to look at mine now and update it!! <g>

Love it! You are beautiful

I love it! The best CD site I've ever seen. You look great! My story is very similar to yours.

You look great!!!

I think you're very pretty. I would like to see more friends getting involved in the pics

I LOVE IT xx

Wonderful!

Very nice.....bring some of the pics in closer

Will try!

Lovely pics... we should all be blessed with your good looks!!

Great Site

I think it's a nice personal page and I'm happy to see that you're back

and that things are looking up for you, personally!

Thank you!

Very Good. Very nice looking woman.

Cool

I like your site, it is refreshing.

Love the backgrounds and the choices you have made.

It's nice and well laid out

I think your site is great, I wish I had the nerve to make one too.

I think your site is wonderful.

Nice pictures, pretty good overall.

Very Good

Pretty good. Well organized, easy to follow.

I really like it. Fantastic job!!!

4) Any ideas for future articles or additions to this site?

Safe places to go

No, sorry, Just keep it going.

Tips

I have been doing just that! See the new Advice area!

How about a list of Best T-Girls?

See my Links pages!

Like to share experiences with other sisters

Message board, chat room, stories to read or contributions???

I'd like to hear about some of your adventures when you go out en femme

Hmmm....OK! Stay tuned!

Photo - story, lingerie, erotica ...... your fantasy lived out maybe.

Just more pics. *smile*

Always, sweetie! : )

Well...more lingerie

Yes, I would like to do more of that but with less on, very feminine!

Not yet, give me time.

Ideas to improve our own looks as cd's

See the Advice area!

Your experience with removing hair in the wrong places!

Did any of your friends/family find out after you and your wife agreed to keep this a secret?

Please read my BIO

Life experience is the best thing that I think we can give to the public. Let them see how we "feel" about things. You can never have too much of that on your site!

Perhaps some articles from your SO

Maybe stories or bios from other women who have (or are going through)

SRS or who are CD's and whose lives have changed for the better because

of it.

Both of the above are great suggestions and something I would love to add!. --Thank you all!

5) What is your genetic sex?

What happened to all the real girls? I developed another site just for them:

http://jenellerose.bizland.com/

Male xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Female

6) Do you think Transgendered behavior should be kept private? Explain

No, it needs to be part of the mainstream

No, as long it is in good taste to gain public acceptance.

Other people can do what they want. I just try not to offend people. I CD and go out, but the other humans seem to accept me as female. So, they don't seem to be offended. I once thought that I was being dishonest but a friend reminded me that that was me.

It should be kept away from those that can't handle it...

No, I think if you have the courage, you should be able to express yourself!

No like all things it should be about free choice, providing it's not forced onto those that are not interested

No I think it is the side of me

A. It's nobody's business but ours B. It all depends on the individual

No, but don't force it on people who have no interest or who might be offended by it.

No. I believe we are all created equal and because we have a very feminine side we should express ourselves openly. It is acceptable for women to wear masculine styles and society does not criticize it. Being a cross dresser automatically implies that we are weird or perverts. Most of us cross dressers are not any of these things. Maybe if more men showed an effeminate side this world would be less violent.

Sex is for adults. It's our way of release, our "playtime" and we live out our lives according to "expected behavior patterns". If we cannot have this release then (I feel) it becomes bottled up inside as a fantasy. So to answer your question (at last!!).... adults indulging in their play can do whatever they want in private. For others CD'ers its a way of life and if they can live it GREAT! But cross dressing for me is a private thing mainly because I look ridiculous and I have no confidence.

Acceptance

I think it's up to each individual, but the more of us that dare "come out", the better for all of us.

AMEN !! I, 100% agree! This could at least include little things, like getting your ears pierced and wearing hoop ear rings or something else to show the effeminate side of yourself.

Not necessarily. I believe everyone should have a right to be who they are without fear.

Yes semi private.. for the loved ones around us in this world. and by that I mean earth people. They may not be able to accept..

NO but I realize all of society is not as open minded and understanding as I am

No...if you want to cross dress...go for the total package...a full sex change

No way. I find those who do not play their typical roles are far more interesting and behave in unexpected ways.

No, because I think people should be more tolerant of others behavior, as long as it does not have an adverse effect on society.

Only sometimes....like now...when it could affect my career!!!!

No, provided it is not outrageous. Those who sincerely wish to "blend in" as members of their non-birth gender should be perfectly free to do so. I get embarrassed, however, when I see excessive, campy behavior from queens.

No, but I do think it should be more excepted by the general public.

No, not really. everyone needs to come out, it's not a disease or sickness

Generally no. In my own case I just don't have the courage to upset my wife and children by 'coming out' but I still feel guilty about hiding it!

No, unfortunately society is not on the same page as most of "us", I feel we must hide or be ridiculed for something we do out of need rather than preference, if you get what I'm saying. This attitude can cause emotional problems, as if we had none already.

No WAY! Should Hetero behavior be kept private?

In my case, better for me, but I wish it wasn't

No, I do not. However, mine is private except to a couple of friends of mine. My wife does not know, 'cause I'm a little scared to tell her.

Like any other gender,, its how you present yourself

NOPE, IF IT WAS OPEN PEOPLE MAYBE COULD UNDERSTAND IT BETTER

Since, I'm married, I have kept it from my wife. But I know I need to tell her. It's just a matter of when and how I will tell her. I want to cross dress 24/7. But my job and my wife kinda come into play there.

Depends on the T*Girl

We need to expand into the mainstream as much as we can.....we may be different but we are not a menace to society.

No!!!! Lets all keep working for understanding and tolerance

Yes and No. Transgendered life style has not reached the level of acceptance yet as some others have.

No. I'm a post-op TS and keeping things hidden is ridiculous. If you,

or me or anyone else cannot live life happily, there's no point.

No, go for it.

No, people should be themselves, so long as they aren't hurting anyone. If society can't accept the real you, that is their problem.

Transgendered behavior should be acceptable, unfortunately we know that the public has not accepted this philosophy.

NO... I am basically a straight male that loves lovely ladies. I find a transgendered lady very sexy and wish they could be more open in the world.

No. It's time to be out in the open. there is too much repression in our society today. There is nothing wrong with transgenderism.

For myself is it private, I am not nor ever will be, passable. For those who do pass, all the more power to them.

No, I love dressing in women's clothing, being female, I wish that I could do so and be able to go out whenever I wanted.

I think it is wrong that we should have to be forced to hide ourselves from the world. It would be nice to come out and have everyone accept us for who we are.

No, I would love to see it as a common every day person choice one could live out without any fear of reprisal

Nope, Coz the transgendered is away to find self confidence also self expectation

Hell no, I'm a TV and love it!! NO MORE HIDING!!!

7) Do you have any issues you would like brought up?

How to deal with men

Yes ...why is it that ?? All or half of my neighbors ,,,are not active CDs???

NO, just wish it were easier to meet ladies like yourself.

Bathrooms. I know it has been addressed elsewhere, Cross dressers should not be a threat to any GG in the bathroom. If we look at your undies, it is because we are interested in the style and look. Really !!

I don't really understand the question, could you explain?

Dealing with an unsympathetic society.

<g> I'm sure we all have pet issues...

Just telling my wife and family would take a huge load off my back. I just hope they would all accept me.

YES I'M A CLOSET CROSS DRESSER I JUST LOVE TO WEAR OUTFITS LIKE YOU WEAR

Is the CD community doing anything currently to change the laws to give more rights to the CD community?

I don't see a lot of info from TS's about the process, their thoughts, etc.

8) Have you been influenced by a transgendered person?: Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx; No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

9) If so, how?: Encouraged to stop hiding; Saw a video with Dana Douglas once....I wanted to be her for 8 months....; I'm touched by all of the TG experiences I read about; I was VERY CLOSE to a pre op TS who I did not confide in about my CD life. How I wish I could turn back the clock. We worked on board a ship, we shared a cabin, of course we had time off but we were together for 6 -7 years. Oh well ......I have tried to locate my friend on the net, one day I'll find my Debbs, and now I'm older, wiser etc. I'll come clean.; Internet friends and close cross dresser friends have allowed me to become more open with regards to my cross dressing. I feel that I am no longer in the "female" closet and can be myself when Karyn Suzanne is about friendship; Dated one for six months. she was transferred to another state.; Met them at work...they moved away...haven't me anyone else like them; I don't get the question; After reading one particular diary, I had a much greater insight into myself.; I am have come to understand that I am not so different after all and I CAN be proud of who I am.; Sense of adventure and love of life.; By her unwillingness to "go away"....she was a wonderful enlightened woman.; I have two CD friends, one came out and is now living a happy life. The other shut his female self away and is unhappy and "adrift" as it were.; My ex-wife's cousin is transgender. I saw him do a show once, when he came down the stairs I fell in love he looked fantastic. At the show I found several of the ladies quit attractive.; Since it's me and I stopped purging I have better self-esteem.; From the net, I'm A cross dresser too

10) Do you believe cross-dressing is a sexual fetish?: Yes xxxxxxxxx; No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx; Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

11) Why?: It turns me on, and I seem to enjoy sex a lot more when dressed.; Earlier on, then becomes more a state of mind with maturity; It does not always result in sex for me.. but it makes me feel sexual..; Because cross-dressing isn't about straight, gay, les, or bi. People into leather and bondage consider that a fetish and so do people who like feet & toes, they're not in love with leather or toes it just turns them on just like lingerie & heels turns us cross-dressers on!; It more like a release than a fetish; Yes, because there are sexual things associated with it No, because I'm me when I'm dressed; Whoa, how about yes, no and maybe? Maybe its a fetish for some who try it and for a majority looking "in" at what we do. But for myself it feels to natural to be labeled as a fetish. I think it is in the eye of the beholder as they say. The more I sit here and think about it I feel there are too many variables to this question ..... its doing my head in ..... wow!!!!; Yes and no. Most of us started dressing in our mothers clothing at very young ages and were not sexually mature at the time. Puberty onset for most boys is early teens so this was not a sexual experience but develops into a beautiful lifestyle. For others cross dressing is definitely a sexual fetish as one can observe on numerous web sites. Some of these are nothing but porn and trash.; because it is silly life is ....a dream...live the dream when you can...; hard to explain here; because the more you would cross dress the more of the real role you want to play; Cross dressing is a visual term. It does not take into consideration the issue of gender or mind-set (of which I would consider fetishes); Sometimes I dress for reasons other than fashion, I dress on occasion because it turns me on.; I get very aroused when I'm dressed....I just feel so sexy....and feminine!!!; I believe that for some people it is a sexual turn-on to wear other-sex clothing. I also know that for some people it is purely a wish to present to the world their preferred image.; In my case I do it more for a sexual release. although I do just like wearing fem clothing; I think that all clothing can at particular times and in some situations create sexual stimulation but that is not the incentive to CD in my case; Sometimes dressing up is only a prelude to arousal, and then very good sex.

I get aroused, but when I'm dressed I really feel like a woman, and love it
You'd have to ask a fetishist about that. For me, it is not, but for others, I am sure it could be. After all, can't ANYTHING be a sexual fetish?

Sex can be much more exciting when you are dressed

For some, it may be a sexual fetish, but for me, I feel "at home" in a dress.

Some men take it lightly and just as a sex thing. i don't. If I were able, I would dress full time

For some it is, and for me it is not. I feel "at home" in girl's clothes.

It varies from T*girl to T*girl.

Some people indulge simply for a "turn on" while the most of us feel more complete when dressed as a woman.

Realistically... how can it not be....part of why genetic females dress as they do is to attract males.....

Honestly, I admit that I could be wrong about this. Not being a CD, I

couldn't say 100% that it is. However, I've known MANY CD's and I

haven't ever known a person who cross-dress and without exception,

every one I knew got some sort of sexual thrill from it. But I try

never to stereotype because every person is different and I'm sure

there are those who cross-dress for reasons other than sexual pleasure.

I get turned-on when en femme.

sometimes it is for some people who get a sexual arousal from dressing

In part from my personal experience. also, from what I have read on the subject from outside sources.

I feel very turned on when I dress as a woman.

Because, it's a hobby

For some, it may be for a particular/specific reason or thrill. For most, I believe they feel more natural that way.

12) Should the kids be told when a parent is a cross-dresser?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

12b) Comments?:

When dressed, I feel right

There is still enough public stigma that I think the kids should only be told when it is necessary, e.g. when they are likely to see the CD-ing parent.

I just don't know. Age has to have something to do with any positive answer. What worries me is that doing so must cause them some confusion not only regarding their parent but also their own 'identity'

If they become aware that something is not right, they at this point should be informed of the situation, providing they are older and capable of understanding just what is happening.

I believe in privacy

It depends on the relationship of the children and parents. This is an area that changes from family to family. In any event, caution and baby steps are always best...

they need to grow up and decide for

I would have to be in the situation with kids to answer this.

Depends on the kids.

Just when absolutely necessary

It depends on the situation....

Depends on their age and maturity.

Without a doubt, children should be told. I was never in that position

nor was I ever married as a male, but children have it tough enough,

trying to learn and grow without adding the confusion of finding out

when they're teenagers by "catching" a parent in the act. I look at it

as almost as important as telling a child at an early age that they're

adopted. (by the way...I DID have that experience!)

"Honesty is the best policy" Also it is better to tell the kids, and answer their questions than to have it be this hush-hush secret that the kids will worry about, or be taunted about at school if the fact slips out

Sometimes hiding cross-dressing can be damaging, or impossible. Best to come out with it if it is discovered.

That's up to the parents to decide.

I think that children should be told about a parents cross dressing but at an age when they can comprehend the issues involved.

Kid's are too pure to be told

Yes, if that person is doing so publicly. The child has the right to know the reasons, as long as they are able to understand and comprehend.

13) Do you feel there is an understanding of the TG community within the general society?

Yes xxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

14) What, in your opinion, can be done in this regard?

More reality based discussion and presentation of the issues

STOP parading about in nonsensical talk shows, if you must, then at least choose one that offers some kind of intelligent insights to its viewers!

More positive promotions, not on the talk shows

Time, nothing else but Time!!!

A present the TG community is tied up with the Gay community. General societies view is that is your TV, CD or TG you must be Gay.

Expose the public to those of us who are not "freaks

Nothing. TG's do not have the numbers or the political force to instigate change in attitude. Although if Gay's can do it, who knows...

Locally here in the part of the UK where I live there are many venues and shops that cater for the likes of us. This I feel broke the ice and brought out into the open to those with closed minds that out here there are enough people to warrant these places and to the closet people like myself it told me that I was not alone in this "nasty little habit". I think showing the outside community that we're having a good time, keeping to ourselves, if you want to join in OUR party then welcome.

With so much bias probably not much

More education to the public, less overt sexual behavior.

share honestly as possible

not sure. I doubt if we will ever change everyone. some just believe it is too much against the Bible to be OK.

more of a outlook toward people in general

It is human nature to fear the unknown. Short of doing away with all organized thought (and religion) which teaches us to hate those not like ourselves, It will be the realization that there are a LOT of us around who act normal to them, and there is nothing to fear.

very little, but maybe more should be brought out in the News Mags on TV, like 20/20 a story on the TG community and the Internet for example

More support networks - info to the public

As many of us as possible have to be open and live our lives honestly and openly. without apology and also without being aggressive about it. But I don't practice what I preach!

I think that society will have to deal with it's own ignorance. Maybe, as more and more people come out, they will not look at it as a defect.

Not too much

I think it is getting better, but we have a long way to go yet. These web pages are a good start, but time and exposure are the only ways that it will really become part of the main stream much

For more of us to come out to the public and maybe and influx of the TG will sway society, just as the gay movement has.

For more of us to come out would definitely be a start. I think there are too many of us that hide it. (including me)

Education and the Web is great place for support.

Not sure.....I think we just have to educate......and be as visible as possible.

Education and responsible behavior on our part

Don't know but certain Television Shows don't help.

I think that generally, people claim to understand when they don't at

all. I think it's a lot like white people claiming to understand blacks

and vice-versa. (I am white, by the way.. as if it made a difference) But

I don't think either race will ever fully understand or sympathize with the

other, just as I don't believe that anything anyone does can create

understanding of TS or CD people by the general public. It's a shame

and a rather bleak outlook, but I think it's realistic.

Make women's clothing a unisex item.

More CD need to come out, be who they are, and let people get to know them as friends and neighbors. Also formal education of the public.

Careful discussion by an acceptable media (not Springer or his ilk), helps.

End prejudice

More and more positive issues need to be brought forth. It's some thing that is going to take a long time to achieve.

Education

I wish I knew.

Education, but most just make fun of TG's to feel good about themselves.

15) What have you done personally, to effect a change?: Nothing yet xxxxxxxxxxx; I've begun to open up to friends; I've come out to my wife, and am active in a local support group; So far not as much as I should, I've only had my computer for about 3 months though and just found out about all the resources on the net. though; Told my wife about the other half of me; Ventured out in public in a responsible and non-aggressive way.; Nothing, I've just kept my head down. Seriously though, I have done something pretty major, I've educated my children to be open - minded about such things. I know it seems a double standard that I keep quiet about myself, but as long as I can do my bit via my offspring then, I feel I've done something right.; I've tried to stay true to one self. and to have respect for others,; well, I suppose nothing other than my own understanding and acceptance of others. at least that's a start. (grouped GLBT) well I am more of an admirer than a dresser. so hard to answer this one.; Stayed in the closet.; Told my wife, also others in my family are aware of my "hobby".; Bad girl, nothing; Probably not as much as I could, although, some of my friends and family are aware of my cross dressing.; I put up a web site and talk to my friends and family about it, not to mention the support newsgroups.; New friends and a grate deal of respect for ladies; Every time that I have been approached (en femme) I respond to the people (if it is a negative response) in as intelligent a way as possible, and attempt to dissuade persons from any misunderstandings that they may have....mostly successful. Two times not!; Gone out and talked to people in "straight settings" while dressed; As I said, I don't believe that a change will EVER take place. The; only thing I have done is to try to create some sort of knowledge; and educate my immediate family, but I still do not believe that; they understand, even though I'm accepted as a daughter and sister; without hesitation now by my parents and siblings.; Wear Pantyhose all the time without socks.; I go out in public as my feminine self, and explain cross dressing to them if they ask.; Been more open recently; Nothing at this point. I still have issues of my own to deal with.; Told the bigots that ant-TG jokes are not funny. This is true for jokes; that belittle others.; I'm not sure what I could do.; I am still not out yet as I fear my friends and family are very against this issue.; Acknowledge and accept them as any other person.

16) How do you feel as a cross dresser, being grouped with the GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, BI, Transgendered) community? Would you like to be in a group of your own?: Yes xx; No xxxxx; While I have no problem with these groups, I think our issues are different and require some discrete identification.; There are strength in numbers, no problem with being grouped together; sure; Please help I don't even know what that means (GLBT); No real views.; Yes, since most of us are Heterosexual; Who thought of this question! If I was looking for a partner with a more open mind or if I wanted to fully assume the role of a female while cross dressed then label me and group me in any way. But yes, the group that I'm in is large enough TV, TS, Pre-op, TG, CD, Drag etc. I feel it works better here for me because the size of population means that there are not enough of any group to fully patronize a Gay Bar or whatever so we have to mix. Purely CD groups are small, 10, 15 - 20 locally.; I believe we are a completely different species but if we need to be grouped this is a start; we are in a group of our own ,,,who accepts us ? church? gays? we accept each other, and to my surprise even we separate ourselves by the labeling process. which most likely will never change,, because people are going to be people..???right??? besides today i heard that the aliens are coming oh god!! and they like fatties,,,[ they like eating them ]!!! so what to do ??bulk-up honey.. hehehehe; I am not a cross dresser; I don't believe cross dressing is necessarily a sexual orientation, although it sometimes accompanies it. Being under the wing of a group which is discriminated against does provide sole level of support, but from what I have read, even this group has problems accepting cross dressers. I guess it is better than being grouped with the NRA, but maybe it is time for us to strike out for our own identity. (what color ribbon hasn't been used yet?); I think so, although, these other groups help initiate a change in society for all of us, working together will result in more acceptance.; I am transgendered and bi so it's ok. I can quite understand that hetero CD's might like to belong to a "straighter" association.; I'm bi; Yes. we're a separate identity; I don't feel strongly about this. Its an inevitable response from the 'normal' community and one that changes as individuals learn more. Politically it would be useful to be in our own category..; I guess a separate group for cross dressers who are hetero, as all the other individuals, G,L,B's aren't hetero.; Lesbian; I think there are too many "groups" already. Aren't we all just humans that have differing interests?; Yes. I am not gay and wish CD's were grouped in their own group. This will be a hard thing to accomplish, because a lot of CD's are gay or bi. I definitely do not like being grouped with the GLBT community. There should be a community just for cross dressers.; Every group should be treated differently , because each has it's own special following,; YES I'M NOT GAY; Well, I'm not gay, so, I feel like I'm not part of that community; Fine. We have to work together or we will hang separately.; No.........Strength/Safety in numbers.; there is strength in numbers... a group of TG's might be good...; Haven't decided yet; No, I live in Portland, OR. and the sexual minorities have pretty much banded together for mutual support. Strength in numbers and all. The problems CDs have with the public is the same gays and lesbians have for the most part. It is a matter of being yourself, and not being given a hard time for it.; It makes me somewhat uptight. Yes because it has it's own merits to be dealt with.; Yes, I am a happily married male with children, but a persons sexuality should have nothing to do with it.; I would prefer to be separate from the Gay/Lesbian community because not all of us are.

Cross-Dresser's:

17) I am comfortable in the opposite gender-role?: Yes or most of the time xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx; No xxx

17b) Comments?:: I feel completely feminine many times - not only when dressed.; but I don't regularly full dress, but I always wear panties and a scarf; Unlike you I am probably a latent TS; Would like to be able to cross dress on a more regular basis, evenings at home, out to dinner, things like that.; When I dress totally comfy being a girl; Yes, I am now. It took a while to realize that I wasn't a "freak", but after that realization, I have become quite comfortable in public. (I have always been comfortable in my own home.); I only dress when at home or with a social friend; Relaxing and more comfortable.; But at this time it must be done mostly in private.; When I'm dressed as a women I feel all my stress melt away, I can be my self and just relax.

It's very great feelings

18) I have fantasies or dreams of being the opposite sex?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxx

Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

18b) Comments?

It is my dream and ambition to go full-time, and to have surgery to become as close as I can to being a woman.

I'm happy as a male in fem clothing

I believe this is where the fetish part is evident.

I like being both

Sure, that is what fantasies are for, to explore your inner being.

All the time.

Just recently I have the desire for breasts.

Quite common in my case....

I never fantasized about it. I just did it.

I feel I have been female in past lives.

It's a cool experience

19) I like my born-with genitals?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

20) I relate better to those of the opposite sex?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxx

20b) Comments?:

I expect to undergo castration this year, and start prescription hormones.

I just can't stand 'lad dish'/male chauvinist behavior

Women don't usually have to prove anything, therefore the competition issue is not as evident.

I adore woman

I relate better to genetic females, I think, because we have more in common in general. Also, I think that GG's are better able to accept differences in others.

I always have been at ease with women and they take to me very easy

I understand women because I emulate women...my CD interests go far beyond just the clothing and mannerisms.

About the same but the question should be "How do they relate to me."

I always related to both genders equally. And are you speaking of the

"genetically" opposite sex or the opposite sex as things are now? I still

get along very well with other women and the men don't seem to shy away

either.

A lot of guy stuff, like sports, don't interest me. I'm more into relationships, The arts, dancing, "girl stuff"...sooooo

I now have more of a chance to deal with those feelings. It's easier when living on my own.

Most of the friends that I have are all female, they feel comfortable with me

21) My feelings and compulsiveness to cross-dress has grown stronger with my age?

Very Interesting, eh?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxx

21b) Comments?:

When young, panties and bra were very thrilling, now i want to dress complete, when i get the chance.

No, I have always been this way...

I was close about a year ago to do the sex change thing. But my feelings

towards this has changed, for one, I'm married, and two, it comes with

too many dangers.

With age and sexual encounters, too, I love men as much as women

Have finally stopped purging.

Especially since 30yrs. old

I always had the strong desire to be female as far back as when I was

in grade school and I can't say it ever increased as time went on because

it was always as powerful as it could be. However, my drive to do something

about it DID increase as I got older and found that something could

be done to make life happier.

"Compulsiveness" isn't an accurate term exactly. I am a fairly self-discipline person. I choose to cross dress because it pleases me to do so, and it puts me in better touch with that, which The Taoist call, "The Mysterious Female", and Pagans call, "The Goddess".

I now have more of a chance to deal with those feelings. It's easier when living on my own.

22) I worry about "not passing"?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

23) I have a stronger admiration of the opposite sex, than for my own?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxx

23b) Comments?:

I expect to undergo castration this year, and start prescription hormones.

I don't reject men I just don't think that I am really one!

#22 I pass

#24 not a sissy, but a cool chic

I like all people, and I like to help those that want help. I don't really admire one group over another, as both groups have their mountains to climb and their obstacles to overcome. What I do admire is someone that recognizes that and strives to be the best they can be!

Most men treat women as a prize.

I admire people...not gender.

Men are cool too, The Horned God and all. (Yes, I am a Wiccan too) I tend to think of nurturing my feminine side as a very "manly" thing to do. If I can't love and care for the woman within my own soul, how can I properly care for the woman in my arms.

I have always identified as a woman, I suppose.

24) I am effeminate when NOT dressed?

Yes xxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

25) Do your sexual desires change when dressed?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

26) If so, explain:

I do not have the need to orgasm, I feel it is more of a mental climax. I do have a partner (female) other than my wife. WE DO NOT HAVE PENETRATIVE SEX, but we do have a game of role reversal where she and I swap. I love the mental release this "game" gives me. Sex is definitely more in the mind now and not between my legs.

As a male I have male desires and sexual feelings and desires for the female sex. Although often I do admire women and long to dress as they do even when dressed as a male. On the other hand when "en femme" I often wonder and dream about what it would be like to be a real woman. What would it feel like to be treated as a woman, to live my life as a woman and to have sexual relationships and have a man love and desire me as a woman.

I prefer men when I am dressed.

WHAT !!! about all of the above ,,ok I'll try for you... ok,, ,like I said for you ,bad typing n all.....i love me for me ,as a cd. sex? and why not wonder what sex would --could --or ??experience like, with discretion?.. for example I have a friend ,,a cd. a little of both me -n you .. and jet we are the same, really does it matter, that we could love a man dressed as a woman. or dressed as a man? love is there ,,and if sex was to follow . then it was with love, ,hehehe if it was lust ,,the same..... man un to women is the bible speaking.. common would not conceive the thought of other ?? do you agree??// over the generations the female has always received the mass of attention. why not want to be part of that crowd? now that you asked I hope you stay n listen, say that i met you in real. we fell in love-or heavy like for each other?? would it be so wrong to have sex? better yet, that we just remained the best of friends, FOR LIFE !!!!????? now that ..that's over ,,,the survey says????? oh! next question,,, PS love ya

much more turned on.

Usually I imagine myself playing the female role in a boy/girl relationship

Sometimes I feel attracted to only other CD's, this is a very strong emotion, less often I am attracted to males, seldom attracted to females when dressed, if so, usually would like a couple.

I feel much more attracted to men when I am in my female persona

I feel more submissive

See #10

Not often, but I like how Stephanie turns on str8 males

My sexual desires are the same whether I am dressed or not.

I fell very sexy and have some grate love making sessions while dressed.

Sometimes I want to be with a man. It varies though.

a particularly open and understanding man attracts me.....

I am always feminine, whether in jeans and flip-flops or in my nicest

dress. Of course, I cannot switch back and forth between gender roles

but my sexual desires didn't change when I dressed before the SRS, nor

does my dress change it now. I simply have the normal desires ANY

woman would have.

Yes! As Bethanny I am bi. As Roque I am hetero.

I think of myself as a woman, and would like a caring relationship with my opposite, a man.

Sometimes I fantasize about being with a man, sometimes a CD and sometimes a woman.

I Masturbate as a boy also girl...


27) I did or didn't have a strong gender role model to emulate, when growing up and who was it?: Yes xxxxxx; No xxxx; Mother xx; Father x; My Grandfather; Mom was in charge!; I had a regular family mom, dad , 2 bros then me; No, I did do a lot of crying when I found out that I couldn't be a girl though! (I was 5 or 6 yrs old) Since then its been more about the feel of the clothes and feeling them on me rather than trying to be somebody else.; I most certainly had and lucky,, have still to this day a good relationship ,,with most. I try.; My mother has a very strong personality and she ruled the home. My father was strong in the business world (trial lawyer); My role model in all things ion life was my mother; Did not, parents divorced when i was only about 4 or 5, father did not merry to raise a family, only to be in "love" this was very evident after breakup.; No problems in this area; My mom and dad. Both very secure and strong in their "gender roles".; I did not have a strong gender role model to emulate. My father died when I was quite young and my mother raised without ever re-marrying.; I did, my father , he was and still is very macho,, that's why I don't go public.; My mother was the strong one in the family. Seems to fit, doesn't it?; I did for 15 years; I Didn't have a strong male role model. My father was in the navy and rarely at home. My grandfather was old and mysterious like a Wizard. So my understanding of maleness was tied to a transient benevolence.; no male role model until later teen years.; My father was a strong gender role model. My other feelings are there.; Most of my youth my dad was a recovering alcoholic and my brothers weren't around. I had to find out about sex on my own.

28) Do you consider Transgendered behavior, an illness or mental disorder?: Yes; No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx; Don't know/decline xxxx

29) I classify or identify myself mostly as...?: Cross-Dresser xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx; Cross-Living xxxxxx; Androgen xxx; Pre or Post Op TS xx; Drag Queen or Impersonator

30) Has that classification ever changed?: Yes xxxxxxxxxxx; No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
31) I am taking or have considered taking hormones (includes herbals)?: Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx; No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

32) Why, in either case?: Happy being a male xx; Would like to enhance my appearance; I don't feel I need to, I'm happy as I am.; I have considered it but never went through with it because of my girlfriend, I love her more than anything but she knows nothing about my cross dressing; Don't know. Not sure if I wouldn't do it one day.; I'm more comfortable (I assume herbal use is a "yes"); want to be a lady; Considered it, but I like being male as well, and I don't want the health risks associated with estrogen.; Being a married closet CD is hell. I cannot shave anywhere I "shouldn't" let alone grow or change any bits and pieces!!! I am currently slimming down having put on weight to develop boobs (I'm secretly hoping they'll stay).; I am happy with my present sex and can get a real high just from wearing feminine clothing; To become more feminine in appearance, not for anyone else, but for me.; I would love to have the body as well as the mind. don't you agree?; as stated, really more of an admirer. just occasionally were lingerie or nylons.; Hard to explain to my wife, as I still am in the closet; I want to continue as a male, dressing as a female often.; I am in transition - I want to look female, and to be accepted by the world as female. To do so, I need to adjust my body.; I am not doing so because I am worried about the side effects; I don't want to change my gender, I like being able to enjoy bith genders.; Sometimes I would love to have less body hair, real boobies, feel even more like a woman; I wanted to experiment with how I looked, now, I take a variety of herbal supplements to strengthen my body.; I considered them, but have not taken them.; Just briefly have entertained the idea of taking hormones.; Have only considered it. I did take hormones for 3 months.; Cost and side effects.; I would like to have a more feminine appearance.; to be more naturally female; To look better; I took them (and still do) because it was a medical requirement.; I don't like to use "instructmentation" to accomplish my will. My femininity is a part of me, and I would rather learn how to bring it forth as an act of will.; I would like to be more female,; I like being male but also like having my cake and eating it to; I am happy as my present sex, I just enjoy the other feelings.; Not interested

I haven't taken anything yet, but I have always wondered about women's breasts.

33) Have you ever considered suicide?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

34) Are you, or were you ever in therapy?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Would like to be xxx

35) How often do you cross-dress, please explain?

I wear some article of feminine clothing all of the time. Fully dress about once peer week

As often as I can. sometimes every weekend. Haven't used men's under garments in years!

Once a week, usually only at home though

when I can

At least 3 times weekly and on many weekends a stay dressed Fri, Sat and Sun... and wait eagerly for a week's vacation.

Every day most of the time. I go to work in women's underwear, when I get home I change and spend the day with my girlfriend and when she goes home I cross dress also while she's at work.

When ever I can

As often as I can -- usually every day

As often as possible - which is not nearly as often as I'd like. The last time I got the opportunity to fully cross-dress was four months ago.

The NEED to cross dress is changing for me. It seemed to be worse for me during the Winter months, now though, every opportunity I get. Being an artist working from home while the kids are out and the wife is at work, should provide me with time on my hands... not so. Frustration sets in so if I had to take an average week then I would say 1 -2 hrs. dressed but not as fully as I want. No make up etc. , just in case somebody calls, more frustration, its a vicious circle sometimes and that takes away some of the pleasure. As when I finally am able to dress its more like I've achieved something rather than for the sheer pleasure, or I've done it in somebody else's time and not my own, sorry I digress..........

Once a week usually on weekends. Usually I am completely feminized and out of the closet for a few hours only but often I wear lingerie under my male clothing most of the weekend. When dressed I often go for early morning walks.

Every opportunity.

How often? on whim? Yes, daily if in thought, see even if you were a girl, life goes on. if we were given a thought, what we do with is our gift to life, may I ask? Are we a sponge of useless information.???????? I think not. So to answer your question...as often as time allows.

Occasionally

I would love to every day, but am able to once a week.

1 or 2 times a week.

Once a month...fully....a little something every day!!!!

Not nearly often enough

Daily in panties anyway

Nightly - since my separation. my separation had nothing to do with my CD. my wife was and still is in acceptance of my CD. even helped me shop. was a bit pissed that I could wear her clothes and sometimes looked better than her

Daily. I wear a nightdress every night and I always cross dress first thing in the morning before anyone else gets up

Usually most weekends, at night when I am not expecting to go out or have anyone "drop in", my wife "puts up" with my weird behavior.

Now everyday, but just came off a 5 month purge

Always... From "undergear", (all the time), to outer wear, (most of the time).

2 or 3 times a week

I try to every time my wife leaves town or when I'm alone or when a couple of friends are with me.

Whenever I can be alone.

They have no idea

Try to at least once a week, sometimes twice.

Weekly have to hide my roommates.

3-4 times a week.......sleep in nightgowns, teddies etc. every night.

As often as work schedules allow.....

Everyday

I think EVERYONE considers suicide once in their lives. My time was not

related to gender issues and it was only once. I was in therapy, again,

because it was a medical requirement as a prelude to SRS...not because

of any mental illness or suicidal tendencies. I don't cross-dress. I'm female

and dress as any woman would.

4 Times a week. Panties, hose, dress, heels, bra

Two or three days out of the week, (when off work), I try to live as a woman.

once or twice a month, but only if I can fully dress, and can go out.

I dress a few hours daily. but don't dress as much as I would like to

Several times a week. Sometimes in full clothing and makeup others just partial

Weekly

Several times a week, when I can.

The opportunity does not present itself very often. I don't even own my own CD clothes. It is usually my sister's clothes I wear.

Every Day

When I desired too

3-6 times a week

36) My present partner supports my behavior?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sometimes xxxxxxxxxxxxx

37) If you were trying to give a non-TG person an understanding, what would you tell them?

That this part of me is no more acquired than eye color, and that it should be as acceptable

Not to be judge-mental, at least until they have taken the time to learn about that which they know nothing at all.

Not sure

I would ask them to think of the most wonderful partner and the most romantic night and then picture them married to the person next door..

Its a fetish just like s&m, your not making love to the clothes!

The truth

I'm me, and I am not a threat to anyone

Everyone has male and female sides: in some of us males, the female side is stronger than normal, and it needs to be outwardly expressed. Not expressing it would be to deny an important part of ourselves.

Wow, sadistic bitch aren't you. WHAT A QUESTION. I think (the way I feel now) that I would show them.

Don't knock it until you try it. In otherwise walk a mile in my (high heel) shoes before you condemn.

I have a picture of who I am in my mind, just like you. Only the person I see is a woman.

I would have to ask, who am i doing this for and who could get hurt,, sometime I find myself do things for myself, yes!! sometimes I am selfish, I would tell them it takes all kinds to make this world go round

not sure I could.

I would tell them I am interested in all human sexuality, all that comes with it and all experiences I could have brings out both sides of my personality.

This is about me. It's not contagious or infectious - it's not something that you are going to catch from me. Please accept me for who I am - as you always have. Just because I look different does not mean that I am a different person - I'm still the same person you have always known.

I'm afraid I would be to anxious to think clearly enough to make anyone understand.

Worry about your own boring life

Oh gawd... go see my website and get back to me with any questions.

Its something you are born with its the way I am

That is hard. I need some support on this one.

That all people are not the same, as long as they don't hurt anyone and disrupt others.

Still thinking about that one.

Live and Let Live. The world's a rainbow.

That it is NOT an illness. That it is a need. like being wanted, and cherished, and loved.

That I am the same person....whatever I'm wearing.....or not wearing... :)

compare it to other likes and dislikes

I'd tell them just like I did with my immediate family: I'd say that

I may look different than what you're used to, but I'm still the very

same person inside that I've always been. No different! I still love you.

I still have the same sense of humor. I'm the exact same person. I just

have a different name and appearance. There was much more than that, but that's the gist of it.

Tell them it is a matter of balance. A macho man balances his feminine side by projecting it onto his wife. some gifted men, like us CDs, don't need to project it onto a woman, we can envelope ourselves in it. If they understood Taoist philosophy I would use that as a model too.

No answer I'm still in the closet to everyone but my SO

That this is not something that is wrong. Just something that is not widely accepted in our society at this point. That more understanding is needed.

Live and Let Live celebrate the rainbow

This is just the way I have always felt!

I give them relatively ,also fact about CD

38) Do you have photos of yourself dressed?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Would like to xxxxxxxxxxxx

39) Have you ever been caught, unexpectedly?

Yes xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

No xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Not yet, but probably will be caught, taking more chances on purpose

40) Any additional comments?

I think that all this confusion about what we are (hetero, male lesbian, and any other adjective used to try to self-describe oneself) has been intentionally brought upon us by the mental "scientists", especially the psychiatrists. I believe these so-called "mental health" wizards have, as their sole mission in life, the need to confuse, tangle, and ultimately destroy everyone that may seek their counsel. Who cares what my label is? Does that make me any better or worse than my neighbor? Am I better off knowing that I've been labeled as an "xyz"? The deeper anyone goes into that well-designed trap of gender assignment labels, the worse off you are! You (and all) should start by liking what you are (somewhere down the line we seem to have forgotten we're ALL SPIRITUAL BEINGS!!! Do you like yourself? Great! Does your SO like you? Great, if she does!! If not, why? What can you do to improve this? Hey, gals, remember... you're "assigned" to a family, at birth! Otherwise, there's not much to do about that, but you're all free to chose your friends and life companion!!!!! If you've made the wrong choice, you can always correct it! LET'S ALL STOP! STOP BLAMING OTHERS FOR OUR OWN TROUBLES, AND GET OUR FANNIES IN GEAR! Do you want a label for yourself? O.K. then how does Happy Human Being sound?

Good questions.

Thank you once again. I have been longwinded in some of my answers, sorry. You look like a lovely person and I wish you well for the future.

Yeah..... love -ya, I thought I asked a lot of questions!

Please excuse the spelling errors.

Would you like to become web-pen-pals, I sure would.

I was caught twice as a teenager - I sometimes wish that I had been "outed" by those experiences.

I did this survey once before, I went through it so fast the last time, I did not answer with my true feelings, I hope you don't mind my doing it again.

I thought there were 50 questions? <g>

As a Single and between relationships, my CD'ing is a personal and private affair. I'm over 6'0" and 200 l.b.s. It is most impossible to pass.

I have recent photos, but in casual settings and not many. My parents

caught me dressing when I was young (about 14), but from that time, they

began to accept my "dilemma" once I explained how I felt and was

taken to a psychologist who further explained the behavior to them.I have had several close calls. One was really close. I almost wish my Mom would have caught me back in my youth, so I could have transitioned then.

41) Any ideas or questions for future surveys?

A vote for the "most wanted to be like" T-Girl ever...

How did you bring up the subject with your wife/SO? (Assuming they know)

please stick in yes, no and maybe in to a couple of your questions. PS I didn't really mean you are a sadistic bitch ........ ML XXX

Did that, thanks to you and hey, no problem, I know! : )

Just keep these neat surveys coming

Will do, thank YOU for filling them out!

OK.....here's a question, in the year two thousand n fifty seven, will old age homes, have a separate wing for cross dressers? Only joking us type never get old...kisses Crystal

Great survey, loved seeing the results from the last one. Suggestions, let the visitor know how many questions there will be (so they don't give up part way through) and roughly how long it will take. Also on yes/no, maybe add room for comment or a decline/can't answer, as once the radio button is selected, there is no way to un-select it

I took care of all! Thank you!

Favorite piece of fem clothing?

None, I think you may have covered the subject very well.

Thanks to all who participated in filling out the survey! I love this entire section so much. It gives me and others who visit, a lot to think about as well as a window into those who answer the questions and a lot more opinions are heard!

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